You're too skinny, you anorexic!

I've never been accused of being anorexic or been called skinny so I can't really relate but I can't help but feel the offense people bring to those who are very tiny and receive these comments. Not everyone achieves a tiny frame/waist through an eating disorder and some people are naturally born with a tiny frame or a fast metabolism.

Why is it that people immediately jump to the conclusion that someone is unhealthy when they're small or have lost a lot of weight? (Especially when they've either stated that's their family body build or that they ate healthy and exercised for their body? Did that completely go over your head?) People just like to look at what they see and judge it on the outside and the numbers, rather than the actual story.

You can look at a chart that you found online all you want at what a healthy weight is for a person, but you can be at any weight and still be unhealthy on the inside. Sometimes it doesn't matter how healthy or unhealthy a person could look on the outside. It depends on what they put in it. Someone who looks really fit could be on drugs. Someone who is chubby, could actually be eating healthy but have a slow metabolism.

There are a lot of people who are at an unhealthy weight, and everyone should go to their doctor and get a check up to know what you should be doing for your body, but just because someone looks too skinny doesn't mean they're unhealthy. Some girls really can't help it. How do you think they feel being picked on for something they can't change? They want to feel beautiful and accept too. Or how about someone who has been suffering an ED or has been overweight all their life and they can finally eat healthily and lost weight healthily but you're still telling them they're not good enough by telling them they're unhealthy/too skinny. Seriously?

This battle is never going to die down between skinny and fat because everyone has their own idea of what is right and what isn't. And when I say fat, I don't even mean obese. I mean fat percentage, fat placement, healthy fat. Fat isn't a bad word! There is such thing as GOOD FAT. People make it a bad word. Skinny too. The word skinny is so linked to the words diet, beauty, tiny, feminine, desirable, eating disorder. It's awful only because it's not just describing one thing, it describes a social mentality.

I'm completely guilty of wanting to be skinny but I'm doing it for health purposes both physically and mentally because I did suffer an ED once upon a time and I was unhappy with the way I was treating my body. So, I did something about it. It was my choice. But you know what? There are people who love their body even if they're consciously eating unhealthily. Let them because it's their choice. They don't need to be bullied into losing weight or eating healthy because that will make them think they're not good enough. They need to realize on their own to eat healthy FOR THEMSELVES. You don't need to leave them alone about it (unless they ask or you can visibly see it's making them feel bad), but be careful of your words and actions and how you go about doing it.

Same with smokers/drinkers, people who tan in the sun, and text while driving. Smokers, they know what bad things happen to their body but you can't force someone to stop. It's their decision. People who tan out in the sun a lot, too much sun exposure can cause bad things to your skin but they do it knowing the causes. Texting while driving, you know you shouldn't do it and even if you're "skilled" enough to. That doesn't mean someone else isn't going to hit you or you'll miss that one split second that could keep things from getting bad. People do things all the time that aren't always the best for them but that's not an excuse to place judgement on that person. To call them stupid, too this or too that. We all have our faults and problems that sometimes we could care less to fix or wait to fix even if we should. That's the way a lot of us are.

Have any of you been accused for being "too skinny" or brought down because you lost "too much weight"? Or just been told you need to do this or that because it's better for you? And how did you feel about it?